monogamy for me, I definitely don't like sharing, but if it works for you, then it works. I guess you could say I'm traditional with a modern mindset? (if that even makes sense...) Though, I remember seeing a polyamorous episode of True Life, and there was at least one unhappy person in both relationships. I felt kinda bad for the guy, it seems like so much can go wrong when you add more people.
I want a lady to add to the relationship I already have going on strong. Someone who will love us both equally and who, if he isn't around I can be with on my own, or if I'm not around, he can be with on his own. I wouldn't have any sort of jealous thoughts because this is what I want. He's okay with the idea of a threesome, but so far he seems more the casual sex thinking for it than the long term serious sort of thing. Eh. But I'm not in any hurry, I mean, I have a one year old, I don't know many bisexual ladies who'd want to get involved in my tangled life. Plus our apartment is tiny. And I'm not really friends with anyone like that, and I don't want to just pick some random person out of the blue.
There's nothing wrong with the general idea, and I think polygamy works fine on paper, but it's hard enough just getting two people together in a working relationship. Every person added to the equation introduces more chances for things to go wrong, which is why you have so many people saying open relationships never work. Everybody has to be on the same page, and oftentimes they just aren't.
in a relationship social monogamy, sexual polygamy. (only one emotional partner, but more than one sexual partner) i've been in a 'open relationship' for more than a year now and its great, although admittedly he takes advantage of the situation more than i do. so long as your open and can talk about these things, it works. Personally i feel it leads to a much more honest relationship, because you don't have to worry about that niggling little voice in the back of your head saying "where are they and who are they with". we only have 2 rules: 1) be honest (with yourself, you partner and the person your sleeping with). 2) use protection.
Monogamy is basically for people to lazy to dissapoint multiple partners. I would be willing to ruin the nights of at least half a dozen partners in a single week if I didn't look like an old shoe. Saddly my terrible, terrible looks will probably mean that I am stuck in a monogamous relationship with myself for life.
Good poll by the way, I like when people have to think.
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(only one emotional partner, but more than one sexual partner)
i've been in a 'open relationship' for more than a year now and its great, although admittedly he takes advantage of the situation more than i do.
so long as your open and can talk about these things, it works.
Personally i feel it leads to a much more honest relationship, because you don't have to worry about that niggling little voice in the back of your head saying "where are they and who are they with".
we only have 2 rules:
1) be honest (with yourself, you partner and the person your sleeping with).
2) use protection.
sounds strange but it does work.
I'm monogamous. Though I do think that polygamy is completely capable of working out, given the right circumstances.
I don't, however, like the idea of the cult sorts of polygamists who entrap their spouses or children. That's not right.
Good poll by the way, I like when people have to think.